My Girlfriend is Pregnant, Now What?
She’s pregnant.
Moments like this can shake your sense of control. But even if you can’t control the situation, you have more influence than you realize. The way you respond and support her will reveal more about your character than almost anything else you’ve faced so far.
It’s important to keep a level head and choose your response rather than reacting on impulse. This blog can help you understand what she may be feeling, what your next steps look like, and how to move forward together.
Is My Girlfriend Pregnant?
Before reacting, make sure she’s actually pregnant. If she hasn’t taken a test yet, that’s the first step. Adira Clinic offers pregnancy testing at no cost to her.
If the test was positive, the next step is to confirm the pregnancy with an ultrasound.
Why is that important? A test only detects pregnancy hormones—it doesn’t show whether the pregnancy is developing or viable. Adira Clinic provides free ultrasounds so your partner can know for sure, and you’re welcome to be there for her appointment.
What Not to Do When Your Girlfriend Is Pregnant
Right now, it may feel like everything is out of your control—and in some ways, it is. But there are a few choices that make a real difference.
Don’t walk away.
When stress hits, the natural urge is to run or shut down. Resist that instinct. She’s under intense pressure too, and your presence matters more than your words right now.
Don’t fight.
When emotions run high, arguments can surface fast. This isn’t the time to fix everything or make big promises. Listen. Let her know she’s not alone. Your calm presence will mean more than perfect answers ever could.
What Options Are There?
When it comes to the pregnancy itself, the decisions belong to her. Typically, a woman may:
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Continue the pregnancy and parent.
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Choose adoption.
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End the pregnancy through abortion.
Most unmarried women with an unexpected pregnancy choose to carry about 60 percent of the time and abort about 40 percent of the time.¹
Abortion is a serious medical and emotional decision, and it’s never one to push someone toward. Research shows that when women feel pressured into abortion—especially by a partner—they are far more likely to experience emotional trauma or post-abortion regret.²
This is her body and her choice, but that doesn’t mean she has to face it alone. Both of you deserve space to talk about your future, your goals, and your values before any decision is made.
“I’m Not Ready to Be a Dad.”
You may not be against becoming a dad—you just didn’t picture it happening now. That’s normal.
No one ever feels completely ready for fatherhood. But this moment can bring out a deeper part of you—a side that protects, provides, and grows stronger through responsibility. You don’t have to have all the answers. You just have to keep showing up.
Being a good dad starts with your attitude and consistency. Are you willing to learn? To be present? That’s what counts most.
Try not to get stuck on fears about money, lost freedom, or missed opportunities. Support systems exist to help you and your partner. And many men later say that what once felt like the end of freedom became the start of something far more meaningful.
Plenty of men regret walking away from fatherhood. Very few ever regret stepping into it.
Support in Katy, Texas
You don’t have to figure this out alone. Adira Clinic offers confidential support for both you and your partner, including relationship counseling, fatherhood mentoring, and material assistance like baby supplies—all at no cost.
You both deserve steady guidance and real hope for what’s next.
Sources
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- 1. https://www.guttmacher.org/fact-sheet/unintended-pregnancy-and-abortion-northern-america
- 2. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/08862605241253026